Delaying the inevitable. . .

Fate . . . according to Webster is:

1.      the will or principle or determining cause by which things in general are believed to come to be as they are or events to happen as they do : destiny

Webster goes on to spit out a plethora of other meanings for the word Fate, but I found those to be the most outspoken.  We experience so many things as we grow older, and each circumstance teaches us a new lesson.  We fall in love, we fall out of love.  We open up, and we build walls.  We are only human and as we “fatefully” follow our path we chain ourselves to the insecurities that we collect along this destined journey. Isn’t it Newton who said that “To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction”?  So what’s the equal and opposite reaction to; “here is my heart please run your car over it. . .over and over again”?   

If we are destined to learn lessons that bind us to chains we will carry with us forever, how do we find the strength to trust destiny and let someone in? Or are these lessons just preparing us for the inevitable future.  That out there is some cosmic force connecting us. Making us stronger. Making us patient to take on the entire luggage that comes with young adults our age.  I always tell people there is no time limit on the healing process of things that occurred during relationships in the past , and then there are some wounds that cut so deep they leave scars.  I have a friend, let’s call her Zooey . . .she is very deeply scarred from her past relationship.  Today she is very much in love with someone new who is patient and kind, and willing to wait for her to heal.  His passion for her is admirable.  Maybe that is what love is about, maybe that’s the key.  Waiting, believing that one day she will be released of all her insecurities, the scars will still be there but instead of hurt, she will see them and they will remind her of how strong they made her, and the man who helped her heal.  I, I believe in fate, I believe that there is one person out there for everyone.  Who knows, we might already know this person.  People come in and out of our lives when we least expect it, some are there just to leave and imprint, some are there to teach us the hard lessons, and others are there to take our breath away.  It may not be love at first sight, and it may take awhile .  But when you know, you know.

. . . and one day when its time, you get on the plane.   ;-)

2.       an inevitable and often adverse outcome, condition, or end